Such a simple phrase, but one that I have to tell myself every morning in my mirror. But, what exactly does that phrase mean?
What am I worthy of? The answer, unlike the phrase, is not as simple for me. Learning to love yourself and know what you deserve is never easy.
Loving ourselves sometimes seems a bit impractical. We spend all of our time and energy living busy lifestyles, in which we tend to fail to consider our well-being.
We live in such a demanding society. We often work overtime hours or run our own companies on the side of out 9-5 jobs. Deadlines seem to come to an end quicker than you plan. University students juggle part-time jobs and studying while going to school full time. Many women have families that rely and depend on them for basic needs. How do we even have a free moment to even think of the possibility of providing our bodies with self-care and self-love?
Loving ourselves is in fact easier said than done. In all actuality, it is an extremely hard act to do for ourselves. When it comes to loving other people, we never question it. We believe it is our duty to do so, to love our friends, family, and our significant other with everything we have, with all of our strength, whether we believe we have the right amount of strength to do so or not.
It is simple to love others genuinely, because we were taught our whole lives to do so. But no one has ever taught us how to actually love ourselves. We were taught through Nicholas Spark’s novels and movies that we have to rely on other people to love us, but where does self-love come into play? Maybe that is why we fail to love ourselves first, because it is something that no one ever stressed the importance of.
We have to be mindful that between classes, working overtime, taking care of children, and running businesses that our bodies and minds deserve love, from us, first. It is only once we learn to love ourselves that we can truly understand our self-worth.
I often look in the mirror and question if I am good enough, if I’m worthy of my success, worthy of being loved by my family, worthy of having a healthy relationship with my boyfriend. For many years I have put myself down- told myself that I wasn’t ‘good enough’. I forgot to take care of my body and my mind.
Once I started taking the time to learn to love myself, I began to notice changes in my job, relationship, and life. I stopped worrying about my thigh gap (or lack thereof), I felt more confident to speak up at work and have my ideas heard, and I noticed how my relationship became stronger.
No matter your relationship status, your income amount, the kind of car you drive, the kind of home you live in and the kind of family you come from, you know in your heart that you are so incredibly worthy. You are more than just “good enough.” You know all the great things that you’re capable of.
It all just starts with that simple phrase in the mirror.
‘I am Worthy’
– Christine Jamieson
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