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This is 31

Last summer my husband and I moved from our townhouse into my father-in-law’s home, as we purchased into the home. We ended up moving one day before my 30th birthday and we had already had a full and crazy summer up until then. I had hoped to have a big birthday celebration (because duh, I am an event planner) but the timing of moving, people being busy and everything else on-the-go meant that it was a smaller get-together with a few close girlfriends. They spoiled me and took me out to The Copper Room at Harrison Hot Springs and it was a blast. We had a fantastic waiter whose personality really made the night for us ladies, and the meal was phenomenal.

 

 

 

I was determined to throw a late “Hey, I turned 30” party this year, and I even started planning it back in February. Yes, I am a planner and I get excited about parties for many reasons. I love being able to bring people together, to celebrate someone or something, and make new connections. Events enable all of this and more to happen.

 

 

 

Life does not always go according to plan and neither do events, no matter if it is a life event or any other kind of event.  Basically, create a plan and then watch it get lit on fire or go flying out the window after it has changed 100 times over. I suppose this is the part where I tell you professional help comes in handy (which is true), but to put your mind at ease there are many wonderful things in life that happen because something did not go according to how someone had planned.

 

 

I ended up getting a super bug on my 31st birthday last month and that was one for the books! Like really, a super bug, what a way to win the reverse lottery. Thankfully a few of my girlfriends, including our photographer Sabrina, stepped up to help make sure the party went on without me. Everything looked lovely and I think everyone still had an enjoyable time, even though I was busy throwing something other than a party.

 

 

A lot happens as you get older, and at some point, you find yourself standing in a quieter place where there are less people around you and you are faced with the reflection of yourself. The truth is that we may not like what we see all the time when we look in the mirror. It may be from a physical or professional stand point, or even on a spiritual level. I may not always like what I see, but I can certainly appreciate the person I have fought to become. Not only that, but I can give my 5-year-old childish persona a smack and remind my heart to take a position of gratitude and humility to be able to grow. Part of growing up is learning to walk through different seasons of life, how to respond to disappointment, and not hold onto the past.

 

 

 

The older I get, the more I have become more settled with how my life looks and not caring what others think about my life. I view myself as an unconventional woman and I like to take the ‘social acceptance’ box, poke holes in it, or toss it aside. Tell me I can’t and watch me not only tell myself I can, but then tell others I did it and encourage them to go for it. Keeping all of this in mind, hey 32, I am coming for you; if you throw some lemons my way I will make lemonade and throw a party.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 


 

 

 

 

Party Supplies – Joonie and Joe

Photography – Sequel Photography

Succulents & Terrariums – Aloe Yucca

Iced Tea – New Moon Tea Co

Pineapple Print & Cookies – Goldngrasses Blog

 Florals & Styling – Sequel Events Inc. 

Breakfast at Tulips of the Valley

Early risers, I have never been one of those people and probably never will be one of them.

I am however someone who is willing get up early or easily can stay up late for the sake of the creative. I am more inclined to work late into the wee hours of the night than rise and shine to get a start on the day. I will make an exception when it comes to connecting with other like minds and creating something beautiful though, as was the case with our tulip inspired bloggers breakfast.

The Fraser Valley is home to two tulip festivals and we were honored to work with Tulips of the Valley. They are local to Chilliwack as is our events company! We like to work with and support other local businesses whenever we can and were thrilled to be apart of this breakfast event. Tulips of the Valley has rows, upon rows of the most beautiful tulips and they are only in bloom for a short period of time. Due to the cold winter we had this year the tulips were blooming later but they were well worth the wait once they did start to bloom.

 

Our team, along with some other local businesses and bloggers from the Fraser Valley and Greater Vancouver gathered for a private tour and breakfast last weekend. Here are photos of our time out at Tulips of the Valley. We hope you enjoy these photos and if you are thinking about visiting our friends at the tulip fields it really is a fun little outing to make memories at and snap some pretty photos.

Photography by Sequel Photography

 

 

 

 

 

Special Thanks to Vanessa Marie Studios for the photos below

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Event Stylist & Coordinator Sequel Events Inc. 

Venue Tulips of the Valley

Posie Hoops, Hair & Makeup on Models Julie & Olivia by Posie and Pine 

Nursing Bracelets Dear Loves Company

Special Guest Bloggers Posie & Pine and Dear Loves Blog 

 

Video Allyfotografy 

Succulent pieces Aloe Yucca 

Jewelry Lost Arrow Designs

Clothing Shop Chews (Lucille, Olivia & Julie’s outfits)

Tulip Cake The Cake Mama 

Best Day T-Shirt & Kindness Sweater The Free Reign Life

Balloons Heather and Gem

Hair Montana’s Bridal Hair (Models:Lucille, Taylor, Sarah and Carly)

Makeup Feel Beautiful Makeup Artistry (Models: Lucille, Taylor, Sarah and Carly)

Arbor, Desk & Decor Rentals Pretty Things Rentals

Flowers & Arrangements Sophia’s Flower Shop

Kombucha Royals Kombucha 

I am Worthy

Such a simple phrase, but one that I have to tell myself every morning in my mirror. But, what exactly does that phrase mean?

 

What am I worthy of? The answer, unlike the phrase, is not as simple for me. Learning to love yourself and know what you deserve is never easy.

Loving ourselves sometimes seems a bit impractical. We spend all of our time and energy living busy lifestyles, in which we tend to fail to consider our well-being.

We live in such a demanding society. We often work overtime hours or run our own companies on the side of out 9-5 jobs. Deadlines seem to come to an end quicker than you plan. University students juggle part-time jobs and studying while going to school full time. Many women have families that rely and depend on them for basic needs. How do we even have a free moment to even think of the possibility of providing our bodies with self-care and self-love?

Loving ourselves is in fact easier said than done. In all actuality, it is an extremely hard act to do for ourselves. When it comes to loving other people, we never question it. We believe it is our duty to do so, to love our friends, family, and our significant other with everything we have, with all of our strength, whether we believe we have the right amount of strength to do so or not.

It is simple to love others genuinely, because we were taught our whole lives to do so. But no one has ever taught us how to actually love ourselves. We were taught through Nicholas Spark’s novels and movies that we have to rely on other people to love us, but where does self-love come into play? Maybe that is why we fail to love ourselves first, because it is something that no one ever stressed the importance of.

We have to be mindful that between classes, working overtime, taking care of children, and running businesses that our bodies and minds deserve love, from us, first. It is only once we learn to love ourselves that we can truly understand our self-worth.

I often look in the mirror and question if I am good enough, if I’m worthy of my success, worthy of being loved by my family, worthy of having a healthy relationship with my boyfriend. For many years I have put myself down- told myself that I wasn’t ‘good enough’. I forgot to take care of my body and my mind.

Once I started taking the time to learn to love myself, I began to notice changes in my job, relationship, and life.  I stopped worrying about my thigh gap (or lack thereof), I felt more confident to speak up at work and have my ideas heard, and I noticed how my relationship became stronger.

No matter your relationship status, your income amount, the kind of car you drive, the kind of home you live in and the kind of family you come from, you know in your heart that you are so incredibly worthy.  You are more than just “good enough.” You know all the great things that you’re capable of.

It all just starts with that simple phrase in the mirror.

‘I am Worthy’

– Christine Jamieson

Makeup by Shayla Rose from Rose Quartz Makeup Services https://www.facebook.com/Rosequartzmakeup/

Photography by Sabrina from Sequel Photography
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Earrings by Glass & Brass Vintage https://www.etsy.com/shop/glassandbrassvintage

How thick is my skin?

Kaylene is a student here in the Fraser Valley and grew up in a small town that is about 2 hours outside of Edmonton Alberta. She is like a little sister to me and I am very proud to watch her grow into a mature and humble woman. I have watched her willing to make hard decisions to better herself and not take the easy road. I know God has great things in store for her life, thank you for sharing your heart little sis.

Self-love has been something I have struggled with majority of life. That is one thing I wish they taught you in school, other than algebra and history books. I pondered on this topic for weeks and I honestly have never had such a difficult time to write my thoughts as I have on this subject. I have not mastered self-love, so I do admit I am in a process of understanding what this word means to me, along with the necessary actions I need to make to fulfill the word “self-love.”

This last year has been a very difficult year for me, due to the loss of six loved ones. I lost myself in my grief, and in depression. I did not take the necessary actions to take care of myself. I struggled with anxiety attacks, insomnia, loss of appetite, isolating myself, and even found myself buying a pack of cigarettes here and there. Staying busy at University and work helped me to suppress my emotions for it was the only way I knew how to cope.

Due to that difficult year, I am left thinking of how I can change my actions to take care of Kaylene for the year of 2017. I am hit hard in the chest with this silence of what to say about self-love; I honestly feel I do not love myself in a healthy way right now. That is just my reality. I am sad by it, yet, this has brought attention to what I need to address.

The last few months, I have really struggled with completely and authentically loving myself. I have deprived myself of love. I have been wrestling with memories and hurts from my past, and it’s left me feeling ashamed, and unworthy. I have a history of trauma, addiction, self-harm, and being in abusive relationships, yet, I try every day to leave those days behind and to continue moving forward. To practice forgiveness so I may have peace, and attain deeper healing. Not by just forgiving others, but also by forgiving myself too. Somedays are easier than others though, as deeper roots of hurt from these experiences arise from time to time.

Now, how do I go about applying self-love? By putting on some make-up and standing in front of a camera? No. By going to the only solution that can teach me the first fundamental teachings about love-by going to Jesus Christ. By taking time out of my day to spend time with Him. To find my identity in God, rather than of the world. The world we live in is flawed, as are we humans, but thanks to God, I can have peace knowing I am enough for Him. I just have to spend time with Him and be reminded of some things that I have become blinded to. Such as knowing I am enough; that I am loved. Knowing I am worthy. That I must come first sometimes too.

I am learning to love every attribute about Kaylene, from my imperfections, my flaws, my successes, my weaknesses, my strengths, my nationality, my past, and my present. I am learning how to love my physical self, my mind, my experiences, my heart, my spirit, and the ones around me that helped shape me into who I am today. To love my ancestors that came before me. To love the God of the universe who formed me, perfectly in my mother’s womb. To one day know, deep down in my heart without a doubt, that I am worthy of love and greatness.

Ways in which I see self-love is by buying myself flowers because they are captivating like I. It looks like taking a day off and getting lost in the outdoors. To keep away from things that are poisonous to my well-being, which is why I decided two years ago, to never put drugs or alcohol into my body ever again. It looks like being gentle and gracious with myself when I make mistakes. It looks like discovering who I am as a First Nations Cree woman. It looks like reclaiming my cultural practices, my voice, my potential, and my purpose. It looks like redefining my identity as a Godly woman. It looks like staring in front of the mirror, smiling at my reflection after I remove all my make-up before bed, for this is when I feel most beautiful.

Self-love looks like loving the woman I used to be, the woman I am now, and the woman I aspire to be; I am not where I want to be, but I am far from where I used to be, and that is okay because I am a working piece of art that God will never give up on.

– Kaylene Gambler

Makeup by Shayla Rose from Rose Quartz Makeup Services https://www.facebook.com/Rosequartzmakeup/

Photography by Sabrina from Sequel Photography
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What is self love?

Next up to share on our series about self-love is the sweet Melissa!

To me self love is looking in the mirror and being able to say I like the person  looking back at me. There are going to be days when I look in the mirror and I’m going to love the person starring back at me. Days when my eyebrows are on point and my eyeliner is perfectly even. And that matte lipstick I had to wait 2 months to come in to stock looks so bomb. Days when I look in the mirror and just have to give a hair flick because I’m just so proud of the finished product that only took me 3 hours to accomplish.

But to me self love is also being able to look at the person starring in the mirror and say, it’s ok that I just gained back that 5 pounds it took me a week and a half to lose, because I decided it was necessary at the time to eat a large pizza to myself, and wash it down with a litre jug of chocolate milk.

Self love is going into a clothing store and trying on every single garment that tickles my fancy and not caring what the size on the tag says. Then realizing that it really was a great decision to eat that pizza because it just helped me fill out the booty in those jeans that I now can’t live without!

Self love is embracing that tummy that society tell us is undesirable, and rocking that cute two piece I just found online. It is being ok with the fact that I will never in my lifetime ever have a thigh gap, or lips like Kylie Jenner.

Self love is embracing the good, the bad, and the ugly. It’s not letting people tell me that I am less a person because I don’t look a certain way, or think a certain way. Self love is realizing my worth and potential, and that I am enough!

Self love is being empowered. It is having the courage to not only pick myself up, but others around me. It is encouraging others to love themselves. It is contagious.

Self love is choosing to see the positive and void the negative. It is holding my head high and strutting down the catwalk of my life with purpose and a fierceness that is a force to be reckoned with.

Self love is looking in the mirror and being able to say I like the person looking back at me.

– Melissa Norman.

Makeup by Shayla Rose from Rose Quartz Makeup Services https://www.facebook.com/Rosequartzmakeup/

Imagery by Sabrina from Sequel Photography
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Meet the Metzger’s

Sabrina Metzger…Our Sabrina!

A day of pretty things, and tents filled with beautiful souls who were there to cheer on the excited couple, this is how I would describe Nick & Sabrina’s wedding day. From the tiniest details on the tables to the beading on her dress everything was perfectly placed. We could not be happier for our friends, it was a great day to celebrate the joining of two hearts and an honor to be a part of helping to make it all happen.DSC_0590

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Nick & Sabrina Metzger Wedding – May 21st

Venue: Triple Swann Nursery

Photography: Heaton Photography

Floral Arrangements: Sequel Events Inc.

Brides Bouquet: Floralista

Catering: Austin Gourmet

Décor: Valley Weddings

Bridal Gown: Everything But The Groom

Day of: Sequel Events Inc.

Bridal Hair & Makeup: Vancouver Mobile Makeup

Bridesmaids Hair: Mauve Hair Design