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Self-love – Loving yourself to love others

Self love… oh boy, this is a topic that could go so many different directions.. First let’s saying Thank you to Bernadette for even thinking of me to do this! I’ve never been a “model” in front of the Camera before, being a makeup artist I’m always in the background making sure everything is looking their absolute best. BUT – you need to wake up in the morning, look at yourself in the mirror  and go “damn – you are beautiful, you have your career on the right path, you have a loving family, and boyfriend (who loves you even on those days when you’re feeling your absolute worst)  – and your killing it.”

 

Here we go – (deep breaths!) Self Love is huge – it’s a huge lesson for any woman or man to learn about themselves, and I have to say, the past couple years have taught me a TON about it, and I truthfully believe every single person out there needs to love themselves. No. Matter. What.

 

No amount of lip injections, Botox, filler, plastic surgery, money etc, can make you love yourself. You have to dig deep and find the things that truly make you happy. Yes – you can absolutely pile on the makeup, change your appearance, buy the nice clothes, hang out with the “cool people” but are you truly happy? Probably not.  Let’s be honest – those people you see out in the world with all the things I mentioned above, acting “confident” probably aren’t.  I myself have made the mistake of hanging out with people I thought would make me feel better about myself, or buying certain clothes that were “cool” and holy shit I was wrong and was headed down the wrong path. You start to see the sides of people you don’t agree with, or don’t want anything to do with and you second guess yourself, thinking “Is this really who I want to be with? Is this what I want my life to be like?” If your answer is no – time to do some deep soul searching.

 

First thing I did to change for the better – cut those people out. Yes, it can be unbelievably difficult (I myself try to see the best in everyone) but some people can be toxic, and just weigh you down. You need to surround yourself with people who truly give a shit about you, they want to see you succeed, and they want to see you happy. THESE are the people you need in your life. One of those people who have helped me with this (besides my parents – I swear I need to listen to them more often)  is Amber Leigh of Amber Leigh Photography. I met Amber this past bridal season when she came to the rescue for a wedding my girls were working on. Afterwards, Amber and I did some collabs together, and I knew this lady was going to stick. She’s real, she knows what she wants, and she will straight up tell you how it is and if your being an idiot. She has made a HUGE impact on my life, even my man says “Babe, you gotta hang out with more people like her.” Every time I need advice on something, I’ll text her and she is ALWAYS there to respond. Another gooder I have to mention is Diana Battung of Happy Bees Events and Studios – you can instantly tell by the name of her business, she is one positive woman to be around. Not only is she absolutely STUNNING, she is so calm & collected and gives the best advice. This definitely isn’t a “go follow these woman, they are great” it’s more of a “thank god I met these woman who push me in the right direction, whether they know it or not.”

 

This is definitely just a brief start into my own self love journey, but I know over time it’s just going to keep getting better and better. You need to do what’s best for you, no matter what. This is YOUR life. Wake up in the morning and look at yourself, there is NOBODY out there like you, you’re one of a kind.Think about what you have, what you are thankful for. Cut those negative people out of your life, and focus on the positive. It has been one of the most empowering feelings in the world to wake up and know I am on the right path. F$*@ the haters – and do YOU.

 

As my fellow ginger once said… “Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.” – Lucille Ball

– Shayla Rose, Rose Quartz Makeup

Makeup by Shayla Rose from Rose Quartz Makeup Services https://www.facebook.com/Rosequartzmakeup/

Photography by Happy Bee Events http://www.happybeesevents.com/

 

I am Worthy

Such a simple phrase, but one that I have to tell myself every morning in my mirror. But, what exactly does that phrase mean?

 

What am I worthy of? The answer, unlike the phrase, is not as simple for me. Learning to love yourself and know what you deserve is never easy.

Loving ourselves sometimes seems a bit impractical. We spend all of our time and energy living busy lifestyles, in which we tend to fail to consider our well-being.

We live in such a demanding society. We often work overtime hours or run our own companies on the side of out 9-5 jobs. Deadlines seem to come to an end quicker than you plan. University students juggle part-time jobs and studying while going to school full time. Many women have families that rely and depend on them for basic needs. How do we even have a free moment to even think of the possibility of providing our bodies with self-care and self-love?

Loving ourselves is in fact easier said than done. In all actuality, it is an extremely hard act to do for ourselves. When it comes to loving other people, we never question it. We believe it is our duty to do so, to love our friends, family, and our significant other with everything we have, with all of our strength, whether we believe we have the right amount of strength to do so or not.

It is simple to love others genuinely, because we were taught our whole lives to do so. But no one has ever taught us how to actually love ourselves. We were taught through Nicholas Spark’s novels and movies that we have to rely on other people to love us, but where does self-love come into play? Maybe that is why we fail to love ourselves first, because it is something that no one ever stressed the importance of.

We have to be mindful that between classes, working overtime, taking care of children, and running businesses that our bodies and minds deserve love, from us, first. It is only once we learn to love ourselves that we can truly understand our self-worth.

I often look in the mirror and question if I am good enough, if I’m worthy of my success, worthy of being loved by my family, worthy of having a healthy relationship with my boyfriend. For many years I have put myself down- told myself that I wasn’t ‘good enough’. I forgot to take care of my body and my mind.

Once I started taking the time to learn to love myself, I began to notice changes in my job, relationship, and life.  I stopped worrying about my thigh gap (or lack thereof), I felt more confident to speak up at work and have my ideas heard, and I noticed how my relationship became stronger.

No matter your relationship status, your income amount, the kind of car you drive, the kind of home you live in and the kind of family you come from, you know in your heart that you are so incredibly worthy.  You are more than just “good enough.” You know all the great things that you’re capable of.

It all just starts with that simple phrase in the mirror.

‘I am Worthy’

– Christine Jamieson

Makeup by Shayla Rose from Rose Quartz Makeup Services https://www.facebook.com/Rosequartzmakeup/

Photography by Sabrina from Sequel Photography
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